Warning: Avoid these types of people.

How do you handle criticism? It is not always easy to hear criticism, however, criticism is a good thing. A careful, exact evaluation of oneself is healthy. Not only should one want healthy, careful and exact evaluation, but most of us need it. Healthy criticism is rare and usually comes when asked for and by people I respect. I welcome unsolicited criticism from those I respect. Criticism should be used to build a person up, not to tear one down.

The problem is when you encounter a critical person, that is, one who is inclined to judge severely and find fault with anything. These are the folks who feel compelled to tell you what they think. It rarely has anything to do with them offering you healthy feedback. Usually folks like that are not offering a healthy form of careful evaluation, but a ego-driven onslaught of hurt that provides a release adrenaline to make themselves feel superior. You become their punching bag. They need to feel better so they hit you with criticism… it is a release. These are the folks who look for anything they can find fault with in you so in their own mind they can feel good about themselves. These folks have usually made a habit out of judging others but rarely are willing to look at themselves.

Avoid these types of people.

I attempt to make a clear distinction between the two for it helps me stay sane.

Criticism is healthy, good and acceptable. Abuse is not. You never have to tolerate or accept another’s abuse. God's correction is loving and merciful. It draws us closer to God. Anything that doesn't draw us closer to God is unhealthy. We are the beloved and don't have to fear loving criticism.

Proverbs teaches: "If you listen to constructive criticism, you will be at home among the wise."

How are you doing on the emotional maturity list from the my previous post? See below.