Calendar Healing is Bogus.
Time heal all wounds. Too bad that's not true.
If anything it seems that time does little to heal deep soul wounds. Time is often a phantom that actually distracts people from healing. We think that we are removed from the wounds of the past through the years of separation from the original wound. More than likely, until we are brutally honest and do the grief work, we'll keep wounding ourselves deeper.
Our churches, recovery groups, and therapist's offices are full of people who think that time is the "distance" that will help them heal. Our work place is full of people staring at their calendars waiting to be healed. It's like running away hoping that a new geography will help us heal.
We heal when we are ready to face our pain; when we are ready to stretch out our hands; when we rise up and walk into the water.
Do you want to be healed? Then don't wait until next year; stretch out your hand today.
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I agree - maybe time lessens some wounds...but it certainly doesn't heal anything. I bought into that theory, its wrong. Yet, I keep thinking I am ready to heal and then putting if off cause the pain is so great I just can't do it for long periods of time so I guess I am healing/denying/healing/hiding/denying some more/healing/ etc. etc.
Time is relative, although it sometimes takes ages to realize that the cage was unlocked all the time, and we didn't even know it. We had been waiting for someone or something to unlock the door to healing for us, when it was already done. I suppose it's about appropriating the means when we are ready.
Nice post man.
Wow, I don't feel so bad now, like I was somehow defective because I wasn't any closer to feeling healed. So now what?
In my experience, time does not heal so much as it creates a sort of emotional scar tissue. It nurtures a layer of protection that, I think, allows you to recall and address a spiritual wound from more stable psychological ground. Healing requires one to confront an issue, time allows us to develop the courage necessary to do so.
A story: my girlfriend was visiting home and her mother and her got into a very serious argument about the mother's insistence that Muslims are "taking over." The conversation quickly collapsed into unpleasantries. The two stopped talking for a time.
My girlfriend slept elsewhere but decided that, despite being hurt and wanting to just ignore what happened, she needed to let her mom know that she was deeply offended. The two apologized, talked, and will probably have to approach the issue once again later on.
However, that period of time let each of them heal from the initial shock of the arguments and more sensitively talk later on. This is a minor example, but I think lessons can be gleaned from it to apply to much bigger emotional wounds.
TIME
Someone once said to me that
‘time will heal everything’.
Well, that’s a crock!!
Time heals nothing.
Time does not delete memories.
Time does not undo mistakes.
Time does not reduce the pain inflicted.
Time does not diminish the damage done.
Time will revisit what has not been resolved
10 years, 20 years, or even 40 years later.
Time holds still for no one.
Time is relative. Time flies!
But my time is in God’s Hands!
Only an ever-present, loving, caring, kind
and awesomely gracious Heavenly Father
heals the wounded spirit of His precious child,
for time
and
eternity.
He makes His presence felt through the healing touch of a human hand.
He speaks kind, loving and gracious words
through the mouth of someone who honestly cares.
He shows His good pleasure through the eyes of someone with a warm, genuine smile.
He affirms the value of His child through the heartfelt hug of a friend.
He corrects and rebukes lovingly by speaking truth
through His Word and His willing servants.
He shares the load through the prayers of concerned, caring friends.
He never leaves the wounded spirit alone, always sending another to walk alongside.
He heals the wounded spirit, in His time, in His way and for His glory alone.
His divine purpose is achieved through the wounds, the pain and the healing process.
The journey takes a lifetime!
Karin Ristau
Someone asked me yesterday how long it took me to get over the pain of my wife's death. I informed him I hadn't. "But," he said, "it's been almost four years."
Four years. Well there's evidence that it takes longer than four years to heal.
We're all just walking wounded, some more than others for sure but walking wounded nonetheless...
I think healing requires x-ray vision... you need to be able to see past the skin of the issue and understand where the structure beneath went wrong. Only then can you really put the right setting into place.
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i had a headache earlier...but it's gone now.
Thanks for your comments. I appreciate the perspective each of you bring to the post.
Jeff, thanks for helping make my point by your comment. Time has obviously not healed your wounds.
not that I am a theolog on suffering, but I have learned that rather than heal from certain pains of the heart , the loss of a father, and a brother, i have just gotten used to it.
it still hurts, and i want it to. keeps me from forgetting.
just like jacob and his limp. he got used to it. when he thought of it, he remembered he wrestled with God. who wants to forget that?
This is a lie indeed. And for some, more time will never come. Repent now. Forgive now.
time lets the wounds scab over and the bones set, but if the infection has not been removed, or the bone not set properly then the scar will need to be re-opened, and the bone will need to be re-broken before it can truely heal.
Jesus once challenged me, He said "you believe that I can remove the physical scars of what you've been through, but you dont believe that I can heal the internal scars that marr your heart and mind. Trust me child, for no wound is beyond my healing". thank God He's right!
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