Addicted to Hurt.
“I hurt myself today,To see if I still feel.
I focus on the pain,
The only thing that’s real.”
--Trent Reznor
It seems that much of the hurt we impose on ourselves and others is an effort to feel. To feel unafraid... to feel less hurt...Strangely, we have been numbed in some way by hurt leaving us unable to feel and then we turn around and attempt to hurt ourselves and others even more just to see if we can feel.
Hurt is an addiction.
Hurt people, hurt people.
Why do people keep hurting each other?
Is it because we are so hurt?
I think of those in my life that I have hurt either consciously or unconsiously-- it's often, if not always from my the pain of my hurt or the fear of facing more hurt.
The wounds of hurt that haven't healed keep me in a state of hurt just so I can feel.
If we are to be the people of God we must stop hurting one another. We must stop killing and destroying mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and phyiscally. We must refuse to hurt another human being or living creature in the name of God or in the name of love.
God of Love, we admit that we have acted poweless over our hurt and our lives have become unmanageable but we believe that you can heal our hurts and restore us to sanity. Give us the courage, the willingness, and help us to decide to turn our lives over to the way of Love-- You, self and others-- if only just for today.
“Is it getting better
Or do you feel the same
Will it make it easier on you
Now you got someone to blame.
We’re one
But we’re not the same
We hurt each other
Then we do it again
You say
Love is a temple
Love a higher law
You ask me to enter
But then you make me crawl
And I can’t be holding on
To what you got
When all you got is hurt."
--Bono
8 Comments:
I linked to you today. Enough said.
Hi there,
I know that I either create my own "hurt" to get attention or feel self-righteous, or squash legitimate pain that doesn't inflate my ego. I know sometimes I create drama to make me more interesting to myself or others. This either works and I feel bad, or doesn't work. nothing so hard as honesty!
The pain of dealing with pain often overwhelms us becuase we have to go to the root of our pain if we are to be healed of it. A wise counselor once told me that if we do not step into our pain we will spend the rest of our lives walking around it.
Cowardice has kept me in bondage to my hurt and pain. When my wife died I experienced gut wrenching hurt that I didn't think I could survive but I did because I got help. When my son was arrested for drug possession I thought I was going to die but I didn't because of friends in the body of Christ.
The antidote for hurt is often found in another person. Finding the courage to reach out past your hurt and trust again ... that is the heart of healing.
I wonder if sometimes we hurt each other because we are afraid of happiness or love. Hurt is like poison and "poison errodes the vessel that carries it." Helping others when you are in pain will will many times melt your pain. Look at all the pain the Lord went thru just for us.
well said.
thank you.
sometimes we hurt ourselves because it is the only way we know how to exprss teh pain we dare not allow ourselves to feel.
ahh, and then we heal (but not through the act of hurting ourselves), Thank God.
more to say, but not yet sure how to articulate it well.
apologies for remaining anonymous. not comfortable being public with such a personal revalation.
Wow great post....
I was just talking to someone about this the other day. I said to her
"hurting people hurt people" The question she then poses is how long do you stay in a relationship when the other person is always hurting you?? Good question. It depends on you??
Lori
I added you today to my favourites ... your words are interesting, I will use them in my walk towards healing.
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