My way is best...

What are you trying to control? Who are you trying to control? I realized last night that I thought my wife has been working too hard and not being self-caring. (In m opinion) I also realized that I have zero power over her decisions and the manner in which she balances here life. She is happy, successful, and we have a wonderful, healthy and loving relationship. I thank God for her every day.

Our conversation was more about me than her. The reality is that I am truly powerless over other people, places, and things, including those I love. It is like an old professor said once, "My way is best… for me." Basically he meant we are all on a journey—our journey—and we have to walk our own path. When life stops working for me I usually make changes. I have to walk my path, and those I love have to walk their path.

I once heard an older woman say, "You did not cause it; you can’t control it; and you can’t cure it." In Alanon they call it the Three C’s. I did not cause someone to be a certain way. I cannot control someone’s choices. I cannot cure what I perceive ails someone or the consequences of their choices. (So the prick at work... we'll, he's a prick and it isn't your fault. You did not cause; you can't control; you can't cure...) Their way is best for them; even if it requires someone hitting bottom in order to make the necessary changes. As long as someone's choices do not have a negative impact on me, they are free to walk their path.

In my life, most of my change came about when I decided to change; sometimes this required me getting sick of being sick. How 'bout you? Other times, it came much easier as I learned from those who walked the path before me. The reality is though, that no one cause me to be a certain way; they could not control me; nor cure me… only God can do that.